Ask the Ex-Working Girl: What do NYC Women Want?
By workinggirl on Jun 20, 2006 in Ask the Working Girl, Girlfriend!, NYC
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Dear Ex-Working Girl,
Is it true that attractive successful women in NYC won’t even give a guy a look unless he is rich. To what extent is this statement true?
So Ronery
Dear So Ronery,
It is true, but not unfair. After all, attractive, successful men in NYC won’t even give a girl a look unless she’s pretty and skinny. So Ronery, I will share with you my philosophy on the desirability of men and their money earning status.
I have advised many girlfriends on this matter and what I tell them is three-fold.
- Money without love will amount to only misery. That is the most important point.
- Let’s not be stupid, money is a very essential part of a good life.
- The third point is a bit more complicated, but it comes down to this: picking the right man is much like picking the right investment.
What I mean by that is just as one does before picking an appropriate investment vehicle, a woman must assess her ultimate goals. Is she investing for the short term or long term? (Does she want a fling or husband material?) And given her goal, how much risk can she take? etcetera.
These are the things a woman must think about before picking a guy. If you want something long term, you have to look at his past performance (not only with regard to his own money management, but also his dealings with family, friends and ex-girlfriends.)
Of course historical performance does not guarantee future returns but they are oftentimes good indicators. Just as a starving artist can one day become an overnight celebrity ( = $$) an investment banker can one day find himself become disillusioned and decide to go into non-profit (= no $$).
So girls, don’t be too quick to dismiss that starving artist cutie or jump in bed with the flashy investment banker. All factors must be considered, because just as there is no one magic investment formula for all, neither is there a perfect guy type for all gals.
As for short term flings, you might think that women follow the money in NYC, but that’s not a given either. Even gold diggers need a break. 
On Jun 20, 2006, 2L said:
This post presupposes that a girl can be pretty and *not* skinny.
On Jun 26, 2006, ex-working girl said:
yes, remember back when lindsay lohan first came on the scene with her big boobs…she was not skinny but even i would have to say she was and still is pretty (although now she is skinny). understand that when i say pretty, i mean just that and not halle berry gorgeous. you cannot be gorgeous and not skinny but you can be pretty but not skinny.
On Sep 26, 2007, Lumbergh said:
I hope this post was a joke because you sound really self-absorbed and materialistic. If you want to prove to me otherwise, send me an email and we’ll get together.